“Often, during a breakup or divorce, parents make unrealistic custody assumptions based on fear or insecurity,” says Laura Wasser, a divorce lawyer in Los Angeles and author of the new book It Doesn`t Have to Be That Way. Instead, think of custody as a business arrangement. “Nowadays, we have so many tools that we can use to arrange custody,” Wasser says. “There are Google calendars, icalendars, cell phones, text messages and emails – all of this gives parents the ability to communicate quickly with each other.” Pisarra draws its customers` attention to the OurFamilyWizard.com website, which provides shared calendars, expense logs, shared document storage for things like a child`s vaccination record or school calendar, and a bulletin board that keeps an accurate and immutable record of your communications that can be admitted to court in case of disagreement. The divorce was about you, but custody is about the children. Be flexible too. For example, if a child is not doing well when it`s time to go to the other parent`s house, think about what would be best for your child. Of course, the age of the child and the severity of the disease should be taken into account. Also, the distance between the 2 houses will be an important factor in decision-making. Some parents use the standard that if the child is good enough to go to school, he is good enough to move from 1 house to another.
However, deciding whether or not a child should go to school is often difficult, so the standard is not too useful. Once you have the judge`s signature, be sure to file the provision (agreement). The court will keep the original and you and the other parent will each have a copy stamped “Filed” by the court clerk. For joint child care to work, communication is essential. For the sake of your children (and your mind), you need to find a method of communication that works for you and your ex. You can use the Custody X Change app to create a standard childcare contract, customize a standard agreement to suit your needs, or create a fully customized agreement for your child. Although the terminology differs from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, the basic principles of custody arrangements are the same, with essentially two types of custody – physical and legal. Physical custody refers to the person with whom the child will physically reside. Custody determines which parent makes important decisions on behalf of the child. Just as your children will grow and change over time, so should your custody agreement.
“Many parents find it helpful to review a child care arrangement from time to time to assess how it works for their children and make adjustments, especially as the children grow and circumstances change,” says Dr. .